I’m not afraid of dentists!


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To treat your child successfully, you must follow certain recommendations.

Before going to the clinic and having treatment, do not say the following out loud:

  • Do not be afraid!
  • Be patient!
  • You will not do anything, just look!
  • It will not hurt!
  • The tooth will be drilled only!
  • Make an injection!
  • I am also afraid of dentists!

The words "injection" and "drilled" are especially worrisome for children. A children's dentist has a difficult task: to find contact with a child and cure his teeth. Therefore, do not interfere with the doctor careless phrase or action. Do not be alarmed, do not scare, and do not tune the child to negative in relation to treatment.

If you want to pay attention to any features of your child's behavior or health, discuss the plan and methods of treatment, find out answers to the questions you are interested in, do it without your child. Come beforehand, before the appointment or talk with your doctor while the child is in the playroom.

The presence of parents at the time of treatment is possible, but only one of attendants should be in the dentist’s room. Answer only the questions of interest to the doctor, do not try to calm the child or participate in dialogue between the child and the doctor.

The role of parents in receiving a child from a dentist:

About feelings:

It is normal when a child is brought to the dentist, the parent experiences excitement, worries about how everything goes, and if the child has pain, then he suffers with him. Perhaps, he feels guilty, and wants to change quickly the situation, alleviate the suffering of the baby.

Listen to our advice:

  • It is wrong to exaggerate seriousness of the situation and to aggravate situation as this frightens the child in advance and he will be strained even before admission.
  • You should not underestimate the situation, because a child won’t realize importance and necessity of treatment.

Therefore, do everything possible so that the anxiety is not passed on to the child, behave naturally and at ease.

It is easier for a doctor to find contact with a calm child, as he will talk more quickly about his fears or other experiences. After all, it is these experiences that can hinder treatment and then the doctor, knowing about this, will choose the appropriate tactics of work.

Union with the doctor

The problem with the child';s teeth is a common problem of parents, a child and a doctor. Each of participants in the process has its own tasks. Treatment will take place and will pass normally when you join forces, therefore:  

  • Try to inform a doctor all the necessary information. Not only about health, but also about the nature of the child: what he likes, what he does, what he dreams about, and the way they usually get along at home.
  • Often when a child resists treatment, parents really want to help a doctor, but if you see that the actions of parents do not help, you need to let a doctor find contact with a child himself. Take on the role of an observer.
  • Be prepared for the fact that a doctor, after discussing a plan and cost of treatment, will ask to leave him alone with the child. Treat this with understanding. Moreover, this is a rather effective way to overcome problems in the behavior of your child.

Education during treatment

Many parents want their child to make an exceptionally favorable impression on others. Therefore, if a child, in their opinion, does something wrong, they immediately begin to educate him. According to doctors, this attitude to a child in the dentist can adversely affect his behavior during treatment.  

  • Do not educate a child during treatment without a need. All the same, he is so excited that he will hardly pay attention. Before going to a dentist, ask a doctor if a child is doing something that is not permissible. Maybe this is allowed.
  • Comparison of a child with other children, also, usually does not bring desirable results. If you compare a child with someone, he feels that he is not loved.  Comparisons are only possible with him. For example: "When you were younger, you really liked to come here."

Here an individual approach is important:

If a child is timid, quiet and obedient, especially with strangers, give him full freedom in the dentist room. Do not pull him: "go there; say thank you; wipe your nose ", etc. With such a character, he is unlikely to do something unacceptable. If the child does something wrong, a doctor or an assistant will tell him about it. Restricting freedom of a shy child, it will be very difficult to form a trusting relationship with him. And trust is the key to successful treatment.

If a child is mobile, active, in any unfamiliar room feels like at home, does not distinguish which things are of other people and which his own, then activity of such a child in the dentists’ should be limited. When you enter, explain the rules of behavior to him. Along with what you cannot do, you must always say what you can do in order for interest increase and need to move are fulfilled.

If a child protests and does not want to sit in the chair, then we recommend:

To start with, allow a doctor as a more independent person to negotiate your the child.


  • Do not try to control a child in this situation;
  • Do not indulge a child, do not beg him, and do not beg on the knees. According to doctors, this behavior of parents makes a child uncontrollable;
  • Do not bully the child and do not threaten him so that he stops resisting a doctor. Even if this has an effect, it is short-lived. The child quickly begins to behave in the same way and continues to be afraid of the doctor.
  • Before you do anything, try to understand what the child is thinking and feeling and how he sees and feels this situation.
  • Help the child to understand what he feels during treatment: where the unfamiliar sounds come from; what he can feel. First and foremost, the child's trust should be won, as a basis for stable positive interaction. Let the child get acquainted with a doctor, assistant, room equipment. Learn the principle of various tools. Let him try to work with tools (he can start his own game). The most important thing is to keep positive memories of the doctor and treatment.

Even if it is not possible to do something out of what was planned, the child should leave a doctor in a good mood, and not with a sense of guilt, and a feeling that doctor is bad.

What if the treatment did not take place?

Consider the situation when a child feels negatively, and these are the cases when he does not want to go to the dentist; does not admit a doctor; refuses to sit down in a chair; does not open his mouth, does not allow anesthesia, so that parents and a doctor do not find the opportunity to persuade him to be treated. You can talk about the reasons for a long time.  How to behave now? This is natural because the goal of curing a child is not achieved. At first it may seem that this is a misunderstanding: the child does not understand that the benefit that he will receive many times more than the unpleasant sensations during treatment. But then it becomes clear that his resistance can seriously complicate things. Therefore, first of all, let us stop and ask about:

  • _How does the child feel? What is happening to him at the moment? _

Perhaps he is relieved that the danger has passed. Often children feel guilty about what is happening: on the one hand they want to please their parents, on the other they are afraid to be treated. In response to the aggression of parents and doctors, a child can also be angry. Any of these options can be true and some other will appear, therefore:

  • Encourage a child to tell you about his feelings. For this the following questions will fit: How are you? How do you feel? What happened to you?
  • Name the feelings of the child and explain to him where they came from. After all, he is ill and he does not know why, and when it will end.
  • Remind that the child's worries are normal.
  • Talk to your child about your feelings and your regret for the pain that has been done to him (meaning not only physical pain, but also mental pain).
  • Be prepared not to talk at all. Maybe it's enough to be with a child.
  • Do not ask questions about details of the treatment. If the child talks about it - listen to him.

After both of you calm down, you need to think everything over and assess seriousness of the situation by answering the following questions:

  1. Negative behavior of the child at the dentist is related to his age. How old is the child? Doctors say that up to the age of 2 negative reactions are normal, physiologically conditioned; from 3 to 6 the occur quite often; after 7 years the child will learn to control his emotions, and if there is a strong negative reaction in the form of crying, motor excitement, screaming, strong emotional reaction, one must understand its reasons. This behavior of the child at the reception should alert parents.
  2. How does he treat doctors in general? If a child is afraid of all people in medical form, it is likely that dental treatment will also be difficult to implement, like everything else. If the child is calm with the doctors of other specializations, then the causes of negativity should be sought in the peculiarities of dental treatment: intimacy; painful sensations; a large number of incomprehensible manipulations, tools.
  3. How many times did the child refuse treatment? It's one thing when a child for the first time comes to the dentist and gives a negative reaction. It's another matter when for the third, fourth time nothing happens. With each new failure of the child from treatment, the chances of curing him are reduced.
  4. Is the reaction of the child to treatment that you observed today typical for him or did you first see such a behavior before? If this is a typical reaction, it is likely that in this way the child most often gets what he wants. If such a reaction is for the first time, it is possible that the child is really very frightened.
  5. How does the child behave with different doctors? It is possible that a child can treat a tooth at one doctor, but refuse to do the others. So it's important for him to be permanent, it means business in a relationship, not in fear.
  6. How was the child treated before? If before he was treated normally, think about what has changed today, maybe a new clinic, a reception from another doctor or a new assistant, an inappropriate time, or the last time the child was with the pope, and today he came without him.
  7. Is there an urgent need to treat a tooth? If the tooth hurts or the destruction is significant (pulpitis), and it can get sick at the most inopportune moment, then of course, you do not have time to wait until the child gets used to the treatment situation and the doctor. But if there is time for adaptation, then this chance is better to use. In any case, you have several options for treating a child who resists.