The kids, of course, do not yet have their own opinion on some serious issues, but he very sensitively catches your attitude to any problem, event, and person. So much of the family depends on how the kid will perceive doctors and treatment.
Psychologists share true, inner motivation and an external stimulus. If we say to the child, “Do you want to be healthy” – this relies on the inner, true motivation.A toy is an external stimulus. The child should not have anyone to go to the doctor: neither for my mother, nor for the pope. Although external reinforcement can be used. For example, when it is clear that the child has done a job to overcome his anxiety, he has succeeded – for a small kid this is the achievement. A child’s desire or unwillingness to “open his mouth to a dentist” is associated with such a deep mental mechanism as the ability to endure discomfort. It happens that the mother does not give the child any discomfort from the very birth: he did not have time to think about it, did not have time to want, wait, and then everything is given to him at once. For example, some mothers begin to give the baby a breast before he in any way shows that he wants to eat. The more problems, the more patience is needed.
Accordingly, if by the time of visiting a dentist we have a child who has a very low ability to tolerate, then the treatment is more difficult. After all, the child must be in the armchair for at least 15 minutes to stay, and more or less sit calmly. Motivation helps the child to endure – for the sake of something. Everything depends on the strength of the motive and, depending on this, the child suffers more or less. For example, children who have a long toothache – they already, of course, want help. If the child is not in hysterics, then having heard that this doctor will help him, he will be happy. And you can remind a child: "Do you remember how you had that toothache? To make this no longer exist, you need to go to the examination today. Children have a strong cognitive motivation. You can press the buttons and “correct "chair position afterwards, when we will be treated!”. Children get used to the situation: they touch everything, they watch and observe. Here the saliva is ejected: and the doctor shows a glass of water, as he takes saliva. It is also better for parents to act by satisfying research interests of the child “I’ll buy you a toy if you open your mouth.”
It is important that parents themselves trust the doctor. Especially with a small child, up to three years old: if the mother does not “shake” for the child with fear, when he is in the chair, then the baby will feel that the mother is calm. Little children are very attached to the emotions of parents. There are parents who are suspicious of doctors – they check, recheck, they say something bad about the child. The child takes as a basis the parental relation.
Try to bring the child positive emotions associated with a visit to the dentist: in advance play a dentist game – children like that. Let the child himself look at his teeth at home and show them so that he can make sure that there is nothing terrible in examining the teeth (you can use a cotton swab and a regular mirror to play the game). The mirror will be watched by the one to whom the teeth are checked, and checking with a cotton swab leads to the teeth (naturally not touching the teeth, which are painful for the child).
You can paint, make a toothbrush from plasticine with a worm – and pull out the worm together. If the child already has caries, then you’d better tell the tale of the funny monster “caries” that attacked the tooth, this tale can be told, while modeling or drawing. In such games, it is desirable to recreate the entire reception at the dentist – starting with white coats, hats and doctor’s masks. Explain to the child that the doctor helps us get rid of troubles, they give advice, treat, care about our health.
Do not frighten the child with dentists. Phrases such as "do not brush your teeth – I’ll take you to the dentist" will only make it worse – the child and teeth will not be cleaned, and he will never go to the dentist. A child is like a small radio receiver that captures parental excitement very subtly, so he instinctively begins to experience, even without understanding because of what. In case if you behave confidently and calmly, the child will not have unreasonable fears. Remember that any prohibitions and warnings cause a completely opposite effect, and therefore phrases such as “do not be afraid, it will not hurt”;, on the contrary, only frighten the child.
It is desirable that when visiting to a dentist the kid goes there with the member of the family, who the child listens to. It happens that, upon coming to visit, with an adult the child does not even enter the office, and the next time comes with another and has no problems.
Show calmness, your readiness to support the child: “Let’s go to the consultation together. I will be in the office during your conversation with the doctor.” Never humiliate the child at the dentist’s. Do not promise to spank him or put him in a corner if he behaves badly. Threats only add stress, but do not fix the situation.
Allow the doctor to establish contact with your child on their own, gain trust. The doctor will certainly praise the baby, treat him with teeth to a toy man, allow him to inspect the room and study the dental chair, and in a game form will acquaint them with the upcoming manipulations.
Take on the role of an observer. Often when a child resists treatment, you really want to help the doctor, but if you see that your actions do not help, then calmly watch the doctor’s actions and remember that he is a professional.
In no case use words – “do not be afraid, you will not be hurt”, etc. Thus you will only frighten your child.
Avoid words that were spoken earlier when it hurt during treatment. Come up with new words. For example, the last time the teeth were “frozen”, now they will be “watered with water.”
Show the child an example in the office – sit yourself in an armchair and the doctor will examine you, and the baby will be the assistant doctor, and then change places. In doing so, pretend that you get pleasure from it. If the treatment fails – and this may well happen – it is better not to bring the child to hysteria and do not scold him after the visit. Overwrite the next day (be sure to check with the baby – like “you decide when we go to the doctor”). Naturally, find out why he did not want to be treated – the problem must be eliminated. Go to several adaptation visits, during the adaptation your child will play with the dentist in different games, learn to brush his teeth, etc. – he has a trust in the doctor, fear disappears.